Upcoming Retreats
Heal Your Inner Child,
The Cycle Breaker Way
the retreat
In the cozy rural setting of my own home, enjoy a mixture of teachings, meditations, movement, writing/journaling, and Inner Child healing exercises. Laughter & bonding will also be in abundance. Groups will be limited to 6-8 people.
Email mindi@mindikessler.com with questions.
In Person or Virtual Zoom options available.
Fee: $250
This ½ day retreat is for people who are ready to love themselves more deeply. It provides an opportunity for connection and community with other cycle breakers who are committed to their healing journey.
This retreat is for you if you are ready:
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For a deeper understanding of inner child healing.
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To learn to connect with the wounded younger parts of yourself in a loving way.
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To have an inner child healing tool kit, with choices about how to take care of your younger parts.
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To have more ease in your adult life which can come when your inner child feels safe.
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For connection with like-minded people who are also on a healing journey.
What is your Inner Child Anyway?
Your inner child is the part of you that has not grown up, because she has been trapped in the past. She disconnected from you when she didn’t feel safe.
As kids, when we are not seen, heard, and treated with respect, we dissociate, or disconnect from ourselves to cope with the emotional pain of abandonment and rejection. We do the same thing when we are physically harmed. Those parts of us who were wounded are still holding onto the pain from the past. Time does not heal our wounds. We heal our own wounds. A profound and lasting way to heal is through our relationship with our inner child.
Many experiences in childhood can lead to inner child wounding. Perhaps you:
- Grew up feeling that your needs, wants, and perspectives did not matter.
- Were expected at a young age to handle adult responsibilities.
- Were not allowed to have enough fun.
- Had parents who were harsh and critical or absent and unavailable – or both.
- Often felt scared.
- Had to suppress how you felt as your parents could not handle your emotions.
- Grew up in a family where there was domestic violence.
- Had a parent who abused drugs or alcohol.
- Grew up without enough food, shelter, or other basic needs.
- Had parents with unpredictable moods.
- Had a parent who everyone else thought was great, but they did not treat you well.
These are deeply painful experiences and as kids we are not equipped to deal with them, so we dissociate, or disconnect from ourselves so we can better handle a difficult life.
Here are the signs that your inner child needs your help:
You feel you have to prove yourself.
You crave approval from others.
You consistently feel unworthy.
You put others on a pedestal.
You worry about being judged.
You are hypercritical of yourself – and others.
You are an overachiever and a people pleaser.
You are under-functioning through procrastination and helplessness.
You have addictions.
You are in unfulfilling relationships.
You unnecessarily apologize to others – or struggle to apologize.
You tend to blame others – or blame yourself for everything.
You have a hard time regulating your emotions and are easily triggered.
You procrastinate and have a hard time finishing things.
You do not sleep well.
You have chronic health issues.
You find yourself regularly feeling victimized.
The goal of inner child healing is to access those parts that have been dissociated, to bring healing to the wounds, and to integrate them back into your wholeness.
It’s a beautiful process, to be your own hero.
You can heal yourself, and the truth is, you are the only one who can do it.
How you will feel as you Heal Your Inner Child
When your inner child feels calmer…the adult you will feel calmer.
When your inner child feels taken care of…the adult you will naturally take better care of yourself.
When your inner child feels more seen and heard… the adult you will feel more confident and secure.
You will Also Experience:
More inner peace
More patience
More love
More flow in your life
More self-compassion
Better self-care
Why Attend this Retreat with Me?
I felt insecure, depressed, and easily rattled most of my life. Until I healed my wounds from childhood, I felt very stuck, alone, and perfectionistic. I wrote about my experiences in my book Cycle Breaker: A Guide To Transcending Childhood Trauma. One of the most important things I did for myself on my healing journey, was learn how to tend to the needs of my inner child.
I learned that when I was triggered, it was my inner child who needed to be seen and heard – because her needs in childhood were not met – and she needed me to be the parent to her that she did not have as a kid. As I healed my inner child, I felt more and more calm. Inner Child Healing, without a doubt, is one of the most important aspects of the work to do on a personal growth journey.
I use both what I have learned personally as I recovered from my own trauma as well as what I have learned as a trauma therapist for the last 25 years to guide people towards a more loving relationship with their inner child.